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White Knuckle Parenting: Back to School Is for Moms Too!

The first day of school could well be my favorite day of the whole year.

Is it just me, or have the last couple of days been especially wonderful?

That's right; it's back to school time. MCPS students headed back to class on Monday, and parents across the county breathed a sigh of relief.

My husband and I were out with our kids on Sunday night. We were getting into our car in a parking lot, and the woman getting out of the car next to ours had a bunch of kids and a huge smile on her face. She saw the joy on our faces as well, and we spent about a minute high fiving about school starting on Monday.

The joy in the air was palpable last weekend.

It's not that I don't love spending time with my kids. I do. I really do. It is just that we have had a lot of togetherness over the past couple of months. We could all use time away from each other.

My kids will use that time to learn and have fun with their peers and probably some other stuff. I'm not really sure. I figure the teachers will take care of that. I am going to use the time for so many good things. Here are my top ten activities to do with all of my new-found free time:

1. Not look for a job. I know I'm supposed to do this, but I can't quite imagine what employer will hire me after a decade-long work hiatus and pay me enough money to make after-school childcare financially feasible. This year, my third with all of my children in full-time school, I might not even feel guilty about it.

2. Run for the hills. Don't worry. I'll come back. I've been running for fitness for the past few months. I'm going to use this school year to really ramp it up.

3. Watch TV. I know I'm supposed to pretend that I'm too sophisticated to like television, but I can't. I love TV. Finally I will have time to catch up on all of my DVR'd television. Maybe I'll make a dent in my Netflix queue as well.

4. Write a book. Sure, I want to use my time to read other people's books, but this might be the year that I really start writing that book that's been rattling around in my head for years.

5. Declutter my house. I like to purge old toys, clothes, and books from my house, but it can be hard to do that when your kids are hanging around the house 24 hours a day. With them in school, I will be able to not only decide what to get rid of, but find a way to sell it or give it away without my kids finding it and putting it back in their rooms. I swear, some things I have tried to declutter three or four times and we still have it.

6. Dread homework. As lovely as school is, it brings some negativity with it. Homework time is a tough couple of hours at my house. I think I will use some of my alone time during the day to prepare calming thoughts so we can get through it as an intact family.

7. Be a lady who lunches. Yes, it feels decadent to be a stay at home mom sometimes, but I work very hard for my kids. With my kids' special needs and various activities, my family's choice to have me stay at home is the necessary one for us. Taking those occasional lunches with my fellow-SAHMs is a lovely reward. And, yes, I know exactly how lucky we are to be able to have this as a choice.

8. Miss my kids. No matter how glad I am that they are back in class and that I haven't been pushed into homeschooling yet, I adore those little munchkins so much. Running errands with a little friend to chat with is more fun than doing it by myself. I mean, yes, it's also a lot harder, but it is far more interesting.

9. But not too much. I mean, they come home at the end of the day, right?

10. Nap. I see a lot of napping in my future.

Jean, a.k.a. Stimey, writes a personal blog at Stimeyland; an autism-events website for Montgomery County, Maryland, at AutMont; and a column called Autism Unexpected in the Washington Times Communities. You can find her on Twitter as @Stimey.

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Jenni Pompi (Editor) August 29, 2012 at 01:36 am
Come have lunch with me!
Amanda Guyton August 29, 2012 at 02:01 am
I'm going to finish re-organizing the first floor. After I finish re-organizing my mom's office. While I am trying to get my little Etsy store moving along, getting my classes ready, grading, running said office, and putting together my sign language program with a bit more organization this year. And weed. A week at the beach, and my garden is a disaster. I think we should also taking up drinking during school hours. To make up for lost time.
Jean Winegardner August 29, 2012 at 04:36 am
Name your date!!!
Jean Winegardner August 29, 2012 at 04:37 am
These are all excellent ways to take advantage of school hours. I approve.
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Susan S. Berkheimer June 5, 2013 at 05:40 pm
Thanks for the memories of our favorite park, Hershey Park in Hershey, PA. The old wooden rollerRead More coaster was also our very favorite.There was also another favorite, much tamer Love Boat ride that went through a dark tunnel and then went up an incline and you got wet at the end of the ride. Visiting the Hershey Chocolate Factory was also a must on our trip to Hershey. We grew up in nearby York, PA.
Jean Winegardner June 5, 2013 at 05:54 pm
Oooh, that Love Boat ride sounds really fun! We didn't see that one. We definitely had quite anRead More experience there!
Susan S. Berkheimer June 5, 2013 at 06:09 pm
Going to Hershey Park had been a yearly event when we took our own three children to Hershey Park.Read More They loved it there,too. All three of our children are now married and have taken their children to Hershey Park. We have also been to Hershey, PA to the famous Hershey Car Show, where we purchased a 1994 Chrysler LeBaron convertible. I enjoyed reading your article.
Jean Winegardner May 23, 2013 at 01:35 am
Cori, you have no idea how much this helps. I just found out some of the details about the Geo BowlRead More and it sounds like a much better situation for my kiddo than I was originally imagining. I'm going to reach out to the team tonight. I imagine that they will be receptive to my worries. I'm hoping that all of the worst case scenarios are in my head and only in my head, which is probably likely. :) Maybe I'll see you at the Geo Bowl!
vero May 23, 2013 at 02:57 pm
Priming is key. You can also show him video on similar bowls. Pretend at home with family afterRead More finding out more or less how it will go the day of event. Encourage and prime/prep. How wonderful that he has come so far!
Jean Winegardner May 25, 2013 at 02:26 am
Great tips! And actually, thank you very much for the reminder that he has come really far. You'reRead More so right. And I'm so proud of him!
Catherine Newnham May 15, 2013 at 04:44 pm
Yes and yes to everything you say here. The reality of parenthood is simultaneously far far worseRead More and far far better than the fantasy could possibly be. The truth about living with multiple pairs of giant stinky man shoes should be enough to make most of us think twice about filling our houses with male offspring. And when did I sign up to help a hormonal 15 yr old write an impossible essay on a book he's not yet read, due in 3 days? It's lucky we love them so much is all I can say.